The Etiquette of Monogrammed Jewelry
Monogramming provides a personal and traditional detail to your jewelry, but is there really etiquette behind all this? Certainly! But what is the basis for this etiquette?
Plenty of things are involved in monogramming etiquette, including letter sizes, correct sequence of initials, whether or not the couple is heterosexual, and all the others. Confused by the possibilities? They’re not really that hard at all, but you do have to brush up on your monogramming knowledge.
Monogramming is actually the world’s earliest form of identification, going back well into the times of the Greeks and Romans. It has served many purposes – as a signature for royals and artists, as a form of currency in the barter system, as a sign of social status, and more. Perhaps the most apparent role that monograms play today is the identification of properties, from champagne glasses to yes, jewelry. Of course, given their ornate nature, monogramming has also because very popular for gift-giving.
Conventionally, one-letter monograms represent the last name. That’s how it goes for both men and single women. Today, most single-letter monograms for unmarried women feature the first letter of their first name.
Monograms used today are mostly the traditional Victorian forms that come with three letters. How these should be arranged depends on marital status a well as letters’ sizes in the monogram.
If you see a monogram whose letters are of the same size, such letters are expected to be the first of the person’s first, middle and last name in that exact order. Also, this setup is for unmarried men and unmarried women.
Big Surname Letter at the Center
For single men and women, he first letters of their first, last and middle names should be used in that exact sequence. And the surname has to be the largest and centered font.
There are two principles when it comes to married couples. One, based on the “ladies first” tradition, the first initial of the bride should be positioned on the surname initial’s left, and the the first initial of the groom should be set on the right. Historically, this style is commonly used in linens.
Years later, this arrangement evolved into the groom’s first initial coming first, followed by the bride’s first initial – as in Mr. & Mrs. Although used on tableware and glasses before, this is now commonly used on jewelry. For married women, the woman traditionally uses the initial of her maiden name as her middle initial in a three-letter monogram. Or she can use the initials of her first name, married name and middle name. Finally, for gay couples, the initials of both their names will be taken together and used as the surname.